The holidays are near. Usually, it is a time for family fun and celebration, but when someone you love has died, the season is painful and lonely. In mourning, we can feel completely overwhelmed by sadness. We miss the person we loved and long term. "How can I done so far," we asked. "How will I survive? Here are some ways that helped me survive the loss of many, especially the death of my daughter, Katie. Maybe they can help you too.
His body ~ balance, which had a monumental loss. You're exhausted. Go to bed an hour earlier and nap often. Stay in the bath instead of taking a quick shower. Eat nutritious foods. Manage your blood sugar, caffeine and alcohol, affecting mood. Drink water and green tea to restore power. Getting a massage to eliminate toxins lodged deep within the muscles. Giving and receiving many hugs as you can and can not help console. Walk briskly 20 minutes every day to increase endorphins.
Your Mind ~ Start a new tradition, the former could make it even sadder. If prepared ritually sit to prepare food, take a break this year and go to another person. If you do not have children do, simplifying set – a fragrant wreath on the door of his house, a kindergarten, a candelabra, a candle or simple figure of a lamb on the table, surrounded by Holly less is more than enough.
~ Your Spirit offers compassion, he did a good job love the person left the heavens and the confidence they are now safe and free. Being around these people you love and who love you, your presence soothe your weary soul. If you have a faith community, joining them to receive support. If not, consider finding one and go to pray for peace, faith, grace and strength. Some of us who mourn find comfort in prayer over the grave or reading a personal letter that we have or just talk with them. The tears may stop coming, but they are opened the doors of laughter and hope.
In our family, when our three precious grandchildren spend the night, we're making pancakes in the "very" wee hours of the morning and talk about his "Aunt Katie. Provides a place for us all, when the veil between heaven and earth is very thin. It feels as if my daughter Katie is here with us. I treasure this sacred moment to a hundred levels.
Remember that your loved one never dies. If we can wrap our minds around this concept is only going to change our minds and reminds us that the creator of a million lives will guide us in our next step. We remember our loved one is always with us as we are with them. And yes, remember and recognize our life is not the same without them and we know that will be lost forever and no one can replace them. But we are very grateful, very grateful to have had the great pleasure of them in our lives. Forever.
Mary Jane Hurley Brant, M.S.,CGP
Psychotherapist and Author of When Every Day Matters: A Mother’s Memoir on Love, Loss and Life Simple Abundance Press
Foreign: St. Pauls & Better Yourself Books, Mumbai, India
http://www.WhenEveryDayMatters.com
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